Instructor or a-hole?
When a person asks me for help with a problem I’ll sometimes tell them that if I simply tell them how to fix things then I’ll be depriving them of some important mental exercise and the good feeling of the following epiphany.
Yes, I’m aware that telling them this deprives them of discovering for themselves the joy of discovering things for themselves.
Yes, I’ll give a little direction if they’re struggling.
No, I’m not being lazy….not necessarily.