Archive for June, 2017

More than an ornament.

June 25, 2017 Leave a comment

I saw a social media post about a friend’s daughter attending a pride parade and saw a comment about how beautiful she was and it made me think:

Why is the first thing (and so far only) to be said about her? She’s grown up and there’s no denying she’s a good looking woman (most people are) and I’m sure she knows this. What makes her exceptional is her work to make her corner of the world a better place whenever she can; she’s an active volunteer for several causes. We need to stop giving our girls the impression that they’re mainly here as ornaments.  Praise her community work and leave any objectification to her girlfriend.

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June 23, 2017 Leave a comment

There’s a lot of buzz in the news about a Canadian sniper setting a new distance record and it made me think of my time with my unit’s marksman team.  The thing is I never fired a single round during that time because I was a GD (General Duty) on the team and responsible for supporting the guys taking a marksmen’s course.  I spent my days  loading magazines, making coffee, fetching lunch, and patching targets at the range so the guys on course could focus on shooting.  I was a storesman.

There were some really good shots in my company, the company clerk was a Queen’s Medalist for goodness sake, and many of my friends and coworkers were excellent shots but I was only ever a fair shot but a consistent one:  Laying in the mud and rain, in the blazing sun with a boiling mirage, hung over, sleep deprived(not necessarily related to a hangover), or out of breath from running didn’t hurt my aim as badly as most.

Reminiscing made me do some arithmetic:  I haven’t fired a weapon in nearly 18 years!



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Premarital classes.

June 17, 2017 Leave a comment

Someone I know is getting married and someone I know just ended a two year relationship.  I’ve been thinking about the premarital classes my fiance and I had to take before being married.

I believe any couple should actively study effective communication skills before getting married.  It doesn’t have to be through a church.  Take the time together to learn how to convey your needs.  Learn that people show love in different ways.  It’s simple stuff but everybody doesn’t necessarily know it.  There is nothing to guarantee a relationship will survive any given day but this exercise certainly helps your chances.  You may learn through this preliminary process that you’re not compatible with the person you love and I believe that if this happens you should seriously reconsider; it’s better to be alone than with someone who is a bad fit.  In spite of what The Beetles said, Love is not enough.

For people I know taking premarital classes I usually have two things I tell them:

  1.  SEX & MONEY:  The minister won’t tell you this but if you keep these two things good it’s lot easier to tolerate BS from your significant other.
  2.  TAKE THE CLASSES EVEN IF YOU THINK THEY’RE TOTAL CRAP:  Even if you don’t believe that the lessons are necessary,  consider that you and your fiance working together to deceive a minister in order to be married is an AWESOME team-building exercise.  See?  It works no matter what.



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No, Mom. I’m not in trouble.

June 17, 2017 Leave a comment

I notice a belief a lot of people seem to hold: That if someone finds themselves in front of a judge, they must have done SOMETHING wrong and the concept of the accused having rights is nothing but an affront to all victims of crime.

Whenever I read about the Jordan decision somewhere, the reader commentary seems to always be about criminals walking free. Doesn’t anybody want to suggest that maybe an innocent person’s life was put on hold for too long while waiting for things to be resolved?

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